In the Press
Matthew has been featured in the press as a freelance writer and an expert source in national publications on topics including men's mental health, estate decisions, family boundaries, grief, emotional avoidance, and the psychology of self-protection.
Men’s Health • June 12, 2026
Is Self-Optimization Just a Way of Avoiding Yourself?
By Matthew Willner, LCSW
In this feature, Matthew discusses the complex relationship between constant self-improvement and emotional avoidance, offering insights into finding authentic wellness.
"Self-improvement culture has given men a socially acceptable way to stay in motion without ever pausing to look inward."
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Moneywise • August 2, 2026
When a Divorcing Child Wants to Move Back Home
Matthew weighs in on how a parent can support an adult child through a divorce without giving up their own retirement. He reframes the decision around boundaries and honesty, pointing out that support and shared housing are not the same thing, and that a clear no often protects the relationship better than a reluctant yes.
"Saying no with honesty is more respectful than saying a reluctant yes that quickly turns into resentment."
Moneywise • July 27, 2026
When an Inherited Heirloom Divides Siblings
Matthew discusses the impacts of a sibling dispute over an inherited $150,000 watch. He describes the conflict as grief rather than a property fight, suggesting each sibling name what the watch represents for them before deciding anything.
"How to honor a lost loved one is one of the most complex and personal questions a person faces... I would treat this issue for what it is: grief."
Moneywise • July 19, 2026
Gifted Down Payments: When Family Support Comes with Strings
Matthew explores the psychological burden of financial gifts from parents, providing insights on setting boundaries and maintaining emotional independence during the home-buying process.
"When I see clients considering major financial entanglement with relatives, I always urge caution and recommend setting strong and explicit boundaries."
Moneywise • July 18, 2026
The Pros and Cons of a Gift of Equity When Buying a Home
Matthew offers psychological perspective on the complex emotional dynamics that can arise when families use equity as a financial bridge to homeownership.
"A discounted home purchase between family members is never just a real estate transaction. It’s a major shift in the family system, which could impact power and agency for those involved."
Vice • June 2, 2026
Gen Z Are ‘Solo Maxxing’ Instead of Going on Dates
Matthew provides expert insight on the cultural shift toward prioritizing individual growth and self-care over traditional dating habits among Gen Z.
"Whether or not the pattern is healthy really depends on the motivation. Looking inward and exploring whether independence is coming from healthy self-prioritization or avoidance is key."
Parade • May 23, 2026
The Reason Men Fall Silent in Retirement Is Actually Heartbreaking
This piece looks at why many men withdraw emotionally in retirement and how unspoken fears and identity shifts can impact mental health. Matthew discusses ways to stay connected and seek support.
"Many men can benefit from an entry point with some structure, whether that be therapy, peer groups, or involvement in one’s community. These tools aren’t just about coping, but about cultivating an identity that goes beyond one’s output."
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Vice • April 29, 2026
How to Stop Treating Every Minor Problem Like the Apocalypse
This article explores why everyday stressors can feel catastrophic and how to build healthier emotional responses. Matthew shares insights on recognizing emotional avoidance and building resilience.
"For many, catastrophizing is a part that remembers times or instances of feeling powerless or blindsided, and says, ‘never again.’ Trying to rationalize these thoughts out of their self-protected role can lead to them becoming stronger, not lighter."
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