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Going to therapy for the first time is a big deal. For many men, it has taken a while to get there. But once you have made the appointment, the next question is: what do you actually do with it? Here are five things worth thinking about before you walk in.

The IFS Institute describes Internal Family Systems as a model that views every person as a system of inner parts guided by a core Self. That definition is accurate. It is also, if you've never encountered IFS before, a bit unclear. Here is what it actually means, and why it might matter to you. You already know what this feels like Think about the last time you wanted two different things at once. Maybe you wanted to speak up in a meeting, and something in you also wanted to

I recently wrote a piece for Men's Health about a pattern I see often in my practice. Men who are highly invested in self-improvement, and quietly avoiding parts of themselves at the same time. If you haven't read it, the short version is this: optimization can function as a defense. A way to stay productive and visible to others while never sitting with what's underneath. I want to go a layer deeper here, because the clinical picture of when self-improvement becomes avoidanc

Gay men face specific mental health challenges that go beyond what most therapists are trained to address. Here is what genuinely affirming, skilled care looks like and why it makes a difference.

Deciding to open a relationship is rarely a simple decision, and it should not be. It raises real questions about what you want, what you fear, how you communicate, and how well you actually know yourself and your partner. The resources below do not all agree with each other, and that is useful. Read widely before deciding anything.

There is no single right way to respond when infidelity comes to light. Some people stay. Some leave. Some need months before they know what they want. All of those are legitimate. What matters most in the early period is not making the right decision. It is making sure you have enough ground under your feet to make any decision at all. What follows is not a roadmap for navigating relationships after infidelity. It is a set of considerations that tend to matter, regardless of