Therapy for Men
An affirming space for men who are ready to stop managing alone
What Brings Men to Therapy?
- Anxiety and chronic stress. Not always recognizable as anxiety. More often it's tension, agitation, difficulty sleeping, or a feeling of being perpetually behind.
- Relationship breakdowns. Recurring conflict, emotional distance, or the slow erosion of connection you can't fully explain.
- Strengthening leadership. Career pressure or life transitions where the expectations feel high and you're not sure you're keeping up.
- Identity and direction. A mid-career reckoning, a major life transition, exploring sexual, gender, or relationship identities, or a chronic sense of drift from the life you thought you wanted.
- Harsh self-criticism. The voice that says you're not doing enough, not good enough, or not worth the effort. The work isn't about silencing that voice. It's about understanding where it came from and what it's been trying to protect.
- Compulsive or unwanted sexual behaviors. Using sex, pornography, or dating to cope or self-soothe, only to find it leaves you feeling worse. The goal in therapy is self-understanding, not shame.
My Approach & Background
My style is direct and engaged. This isn't passive listening. I ask hard questions, I don't pathologize the ways you've been coping, and I won't treat the complexity of your situation like it has a simple fix. I'm a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), with a Master's degree from Columbia University, as well as a Certified IFS therapist.
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Prior to becoming a therapist, I had a career including leadership roles in business, non-profits, and government, both domestically and internationally. This broader experience gives me the ability to understand where you are coming from, without you needing to explain it all.
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FAQ about Therapy for Men
Is therapy effective for men who have trouble opening up?
The difficulty opening up is often exactly what therapy addresses, not a prerequisite you need to overcome before starting. Many men find that the resistance itself becomes useful material in the work. You don't need to arrive ready to be vulnerable. You need to be willing to show up.
How is therapy for men different from general therapy?
Therapy that works well for men tends to be direct, non-pathologizing, and focused on patterns and behavior as much as emotion. It doesn't treat stoicism or self-reliance as defects to be corrected. It takes those qualities seriously and brings curiosity and compassion so that we can work with them rather than against them.
Do you work with LGBTQ+ men and men in non-traditional relationships?
Yes. I provide affirming care for gay, bisexual, queer, and questioning men, as well as men in non-monogamous, polyamorous, and kink relationships.Â
Why does IFS work particularly well for men?
IFS doesn't ask you to perform openness. Instead of pushing you to talk about feelings you may not have access to yet, it gets curious about the parts of you that are shut down, resistant, or self-critical, and treats those responses as adaptive rather than as problems to fix. For men who have spent years relying on self-protection, that reframe can change what therapy feels like from the first session. Learn more about IFS therapy with me HERE.
What states do you see clients in?
I offer virtual therapy for men in New York, New Jersey (license pending), and Colorado.
Accountability and Healing After Harm
I provide specialized support for those who have harmed others, creating a compassionate environment to understand the consequences of their actions and find a way forward.
Our work involves deep dives into accountability, grief, anger, and conflict resolution to foster healthier relationships and personal growth. With a background in restorative justice, I help clients navigate the complexities of taking responsibility and moving forward with lives of meaning.